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USEFUL FRIENDLY LINKS and RESOURCES
Useful Government advice and guidance, what to do, what benefits are available
My only advice is... please take your time... don't rush, or feel rushed, into making decisions. People often say their brain goes a bit 'mushy' and that they can't think straight when faced with bereavement. It's probably nature's way of protecting you, so take your time if you need to, and only do what you can manage in small stages.
Try to ring at least three undertakers to ask what they can offer you in terms of a choice of funeral dates and venues and ministers or celebrants ( an independent may be much more flexible with dates and times than a national chain) ask for an estimate of how much their services will cost and what that includes, and see if you like what they offer and the way they work. Be sure to ask if the fees include the crematorium and doctor's fees.
Most independents will publish their prices on their websites so take a look around and see what they offer.
You know that friend who says: "If there's anything I can do, just shout..."?
Well, why not ask them to ring round and check things out on your behalf?
'The Good Funeral Guide' - started by Charles Cowling, will tell you everything you need to know and everything you need to do when someone dies. It will inform you speedily, efficiently, matter-of-factly and thoroughly. Above all it will put you in charge.
qualified local Funeral Celebrant - we work together to make sure you can have a local celebrant conducting your ceremony - call either of us for advice and support.
useful website - it's easy to navigate, it has links to everything you might need to know. It's a manual, it's a magazine and it's a forum.
At last, a one-stop-shop for end of life plans. Record your Wishes, buy a Will, organise a funeral, price a coffin...
MuchLoved is a memorial website charity helping bereaved people to create their own personalised and free online memorial in memory of a loved one.
FUNERAL CEREMONY ADVICE AND IDEAS
is dedicated to helping people to arrange a meaningful, significant and sincere funeral or end of life ceremony - an excellent resource for ideas, non-religious poems, non-religious readings, songs, prayers, hymns, bible readings, non-religious music and quotes
Rachel Wallace is a local photographer and can be commissioned for funerals where she works discreetly and sensitively throughout.
She is fairly unique in her business FAREWELL PHOTOGRAPHY in which she endeavours to demystify and alleviate the grieving process by producing beautiful Memory Books for the bereaved to keep and treasure after the funeral or memorial service.
Sentiment is a production company which specialises in end-of-life tribute photo & video montages, filmed life biographies and memory books to help you say goodbye exactly as you want to.
Ronald Paterson - Pipe Major for Reading Scottish Pipe Band
provides a highly specialised music service to the bereavement community. Browse your local crematorium hymn library list for ideas for hymns, and the general library list for non-religious music choices
many funerals in England are currently arranged by local parish churches
SUPPORT AND COUNSELLING
If your husband, wife or civil partner has died you may be able to get the Bereavement Payment, a one-off, lump-sum payment of £2,000 that's tax-free.
Who can claim
You may be able to claim Bereavement Payment if your husband, wife or civil partner had paid their National Insurance contributions (NICs) or their death was caused by their job and either:
- you were under State Pension age when they died
- your husband, wife or civil partner was not entitled to Category A state Retirement Benefit when they died
a hugely popular online resource for anyone who has lost a partner.
Merrywidow does not exclude anybody, it is open to all, and the information contained here is essential reading for widows and widowers of all ages, as well as friends and family who would like to know how best to help.
confidential emotional support 24/7 to those experiencing despair or distress
excellent website formed to offer a unique reference point on facing and dealing with bereavement
Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide exists to meet the needs
and break the isolation of those bereaved by the suicide of a close friend or relative
UK charity providing support for anyone affected by the death of a baby
Winston's Wish is the leading childhood bereavement charity and the largest provider of services to bereaved children, young people and their families in the UK.
specialised support to all those affected when a baby or child dies, or when a child is bereaved
national charity offering free, confidential help to bereaved people
explore areas which might restrict moving on, help resolve areas of conflict still remaining, help to adjust to a new sense of self, consider if the mourning has turned to depression.