go your own way - independent funeral services


USEFUL FRIENDLY LINKS and RESOURCES 

What to do after someone dies

Useful Government advice and guidance, what to do, what benefits are available


Evelyn's Funerals

My funeral arranging website which will help you to arrange the funeral in your own way. Evelyn's Funerals is now being run by Amanda Pink, leaving me free to concentrate on the ceremonies.

My only advice is... please take your time... don't rush, or feel rushed, into making decisions. People often say their brain goes a bit 'mushy' and that they can't think straight when faced with bereavement. It's probably nature's way of protecting you, so take your time if you need to, and only do what you can manage in small stages.

Try to ring at least three undertakers to ask what they can offer you in terms of a choice of funeral dates and venues and ministers or celebrants ( an independent may be much more flexible with dates and times than a national chain) ask for an estimate of how much their services will cost and what that includes, and see if you like what they offer and the way they work. Be sure to ask if the fees include the crematorium and doctor's fees.

Most independents will publish their prices on their websites so take a look around and see what they offer. 

Or

You know that friend who says: "If there's anything I can do, just shout..."?

Well, why not ask them to ring round and check things out on your behalf? 


Natural Death Centre 

If you are looking for help, support, advice or guidance planning a funeral, either for yourself or for someone close to you, the Natural Death Centre Charity is there for you.

If you want to find a funeral director, need advice on caring for someone after death, or just some friendly impartial guidance, give them a call.



Charles Cowling's 'The Good Funeral Guide' will tell you everything you need to know 
and everything you need to do when someone dies. It will inform you speedily,
efficiently, matter-of-factly and thoroughly. Above all it will put you in charge.


Belinda Forbes

qualified local Funeral Celebrant - we work together to make sure you can have a local celebrant conducting your ceremony - call either of us for advice and support.


Final Fling

useful website -  it's easy to navigate, it has links to everything you might need to know. It's a manual, it's a magazine and it's a forum.

At last, a one-stop-shop for end of life plans. Record your Wishes, buy a Will, organise a funeral, price a coffin...


MuchLoved is a memorial website charity helping bereaved people to create their own personalised and free online memorial in memory of a loved one.



Everything you need to know to plan your exit strategy, especially to have the music that means the most to you played at your farewell. Your funeral plans and digital memories can be stored in your Lifebox so future generations will know the real you.



FUNERAL CEREMONY ADVICE AND IDEAS

 

is dedicated to helping people to arrange a meaningful, significant and sincere funeral or end of life ceremony  - an excellent resource for ideas, non-religious poems, non-religious readings, songs, prayers, hymns, bible readings, non-religious music and quotes

Farewell Photography

Rachel Wallace is a local photographer and can be commissioned for funerals where she works discreetly and sensitively throughout. 

She is fairly unique in her business FAREWELL PHOTOGRAPHY in which she endeavours to demystify and alleviate the grieving process by producing beautiful Memory Books for the bereaved to keep and treasure after the funeral or memorial service.

Sentiment

Sentiment is a production company which specialises in end-of-life tribute photo & video montages, filmed life biographies and memory books to help you say goodbye exactly as you want to.

Green Fuse

we need to talk about the funeral - religious and non-religious ideas and advice with 101 practical ways to commemorate and celebrate a life

Scottish Piper

Ronald Paterson - Pipe Major for Reading Scottish Pipe Band

Wesley Music

provides a highly specialised music service to the bereavement community. Browse your local crematorium hymn library list for ideas for hymns, and the general library list for non-religious music choices

Church of England

many funerals in England are currently arranged by local parish churches

COFFINS AND SHROUDS 

These are just some 'different' fancy ones I've seen and really liked! Many are hand made and so more expensive. I also like the idea of a plain and simple pine coffin with rope handles that is mass produced and much cheaper! 



SunsetCoffins


From the humble beginnings of recycled paper, this subtle pastel coloured board 
has been carefully crafted, using traditional techniques, with no metals or plastics,
it is therefore totally biodegradable and suitable for burial or cremation


Bellacouche

a new and gentler approach - an alternative to the Victorian funeral coffin - the felt shroud is in the shape of a leaf, an image which evokes the changing seasons of life and an appropriate choice for a natural funeral, reflecting awareness of the environment, staying close to nature, intrinsically soft and comforting


Honest Coffins


Honest Coffins was founded by an Englishman living in Scotland. He passed the business to a fellow Scotsman, John Connell, living in England.

John had become interested in eco-coffins (he studied Ecology at college) when his mother died and he noticed that the eco-coffins were amongst the more expensive options offered by the funeral director. He later discovered that many of the so called eco-coffins are imported from Indonesia and China. So he jumped at the chance to acquire Honest Coffins and moved production to a rural location in Gloucestershire.

There in a shed the coffins are made using time honoured techniques, assisted by a beautiful black Labrador. Outside sheep munch the grass and ponder on the cycle of life and death.


Each Honest Coffin is built with one thing in mind: A much loved one is to rest here.




Buy a coffin from Natural Endings (Green Funeral Directors of the Year 2013) and we aim to deliver within 24 hours (Monday to Friday) if you place your order before noon. (Delivery to North Scotland can take a little longer and cost slightly more). 
All prices include delivery in mainland UK.


Our ethos is to ensure that bereaved families receive the best attention at all stages of what can be a very sad and difficult time.

There is a lot to organise in what can often be a stressful and difficult time. Participating in funeral arrangements can sometimes help people to come to terms with their loss.

Our promise is to provide service, and variety of coffin choices, that surpass all the desires and expectations of the bereaved. We adopt an enlightened approach to today's changing attitudes towards conventional practices by offering an alternative to the sometimes unsatisfactory choices available. We encourage people to have the coffin they really want. Our hope is that, by helping you have the personalised coffin of your choice, we make a difference to you and your family.

Whether you are considering your own arrangements for the future, or you are trying to choose a suitable coffin for a loved one, we know how important it is that the choice you make is the right one. If you are organising a funeral for a member of your family, or a much loved friend, you will want their farewell to be personal to them. This does not need to be at an expensive cost to you.




In its unique sculptural form the Pebblewood Coffin embraces the deceased in a naturally restful position. Each coffin is hand crafted from Birch Ply and is fully biodegradable and equally suited for traditional or woodland burials, or cremation. It is lined in 100% natural linen.

100% environmentally friendly, natural woven-wool coffin.

100% produced and hand crafted in Britain with minimal transport miles.

Organic, bio-dynamic and rare breed fleece obtained where possible.

Shearing, weaving and coppicing support the rural economy.

Each Burial Cloud comes complete with supporting underboard made from oak or pine and an internal calico liner.


La Terra Pura

At La Terra Pura we make beautiful coffins.  We use a recycled cardboard structure, covered and fully lined, variously with silk, wool, cotton, hessian, jute and hemp.  In other words, natural materials from sustainable sources, chosen with care, and with respect also for the people who produce them.  


We love our work, and hope to offer it to as many people as possible.  This is such an original and fresh approach, (if you don't count the Egyptians) there seems to be a lot of interest.  We know we have a lot to learn, but La Terra Pura seems to have a life of its' own.  In the end 'the show must go on', and we will make sure it does.  We want people to say 'I want my coffin to come from La Terra Pura' because it will have become synonymous with beauty , comfort, and a particular quality..


offer an eco-friendly alternative that will help establish a sustainable
new life for families in an area of Bangladesh blighted by extreme poverty.

Cheap Coffins 

Online Coffin Sales from 'Go As You Please' a North East Funeral Director (no connection to Go Your Own Way!)

We stock and supply a wide range of coffins to suit all tastes and budgets and will deliver within 24 hours to anywhere in the UK. As well as traditional coffins and wicker coffins, we also supply bio-degradeable cardboard coffins and can custom design and print almost anything you would like from union jacks to tattoo graffiti. All of our coffins are made from sustainable materials and are fully biodegradeable. These are just a small selection of our range, feel free to give us a call to discuss what else we may have and can supply - not just coffins but also urns etc.


SUPPORT AND COUNSELLING

Bereavement Payment

If your husband, wife or civil partner has died you may be able to get the Bereavement Payment, a one-off, lump-sum payment of £2,000 that's tax-free.

Who can claim

You may be able to claim Bereavement Payment if your husband, wife or civil partner had paid their National Insurance contributions (NICs) or their death was caused by their job and either:

  • you were under State Pension age when they died
  • your husband, wife or civil partner was not entitled to Category A state Retirement Benefit when they died

Merry Widow

a hugely popular online resource for anyone who has lost a partner.

Merrywidow does not exclude anybody, it is open to all, and the information contained here is essential reading for widows and widowers of all ages, as well as friends and family who would like to know how best to help.


The Compassionate Friends

Supporting bereaved parents and their families after a child dies


See the Say Their Name Video here 

I think it's beautiful, brilliant and brave.


TCF is a charitable organisation of bereaved parents, siblings and grandparents dedicated to the support and care of other bereaved parents, siblings, and grandparents who have suffered the death of a child/children.

We offer support both directly to bereaved families and indirectly by fostering understanding and good practice amongst professionals concerned with child death and by increasing public awareness.

We recognise that many who have suffered the loss of a child feel a bond with others similarly bereaved and wish to extend the hand of friendship.


Samaritans

confidential emotional support 24/7 to those experiencing despair or distress 

Facing Bereavement 

excellent website formed to offer a unique reference point on facing and dealing with bereavement 

SOBS 

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide exists to meet the needs 

and break the isolation of those bereaved by the suicide of a close friend or relative

UK charity providing support for anyone affected by the death of a baby

Winston's Wish

Winston's Wish is the leading childhood bereavement charity and the largest provider of services to bereaved children, young people and their families in the UK.

Child Bereavement

specialised support to all those affected when a baby or child dies, or when a child is bereaved

Cruse

national charity offering free, confidential help to bereaved people


explore areas which might restrict moving on, help resolve areas of conflict still remaining, help to adjust to a new sense of self, consider if the mourning has turned to depression.


CREMATORIA AND CEMETERIES

Aldershot Crematorium

Amersham/Chilterns Crematorium

Basingstoke Crematorium

Breakspear Crematorium

Croydon Crematorium

Easthampstead Park Crematorium, Bracknell

Guildford Crematorium

Mortlake Crematorium

Randalls Park Crematorium

Reading Crematorium

Slough Crematorium

South West Middlesex Crematorium

West Berkshire Crematorium

Woking Crematorium



BURIALS

Woodland Burial Parks

Woodland Burials

Association of Natural Burial Grounds

Private Garden Burials

Burials at Sea



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