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If you have been subject to their unsolicited, intrusive, unprofessional and rude phone calls, log it online at 'who called me'. There have been thousands of logged harassment calls.



What to do after someone dies

Useful Government advice and guidance, what to do, what benefits are available

My only advice is... please take your time... don't rush, or feel rushed, into making decisions. People often say their brain goes a bit 'mushy' and that they can't think straight when faced with bereavement. It's probably nature's way of protecting you, so take your time if you need to, and only do what you can manage in small stages.

Try to ring at least three undertakers to ask what they can offer you in terms of a choice of funeral dates and venues and ministers or celebrants ( an independent may be much more flexible with dates and times than a national chain) ask for an estimate of how much their services will cost and what that includes, and see if you like what they offer and the way they work. Be sure to ask if the fees include the crematorium and doctor's fees.

Most independents will publish their prices on their websites so take a look around and see what they offer. 


You know that friend who says: "If there's anything I can do, just shout..."?

Well, why not ask them to ring round and check things out on your behalf? 

Natural Death Centre 

If you are looking for help, support, advice or guidance planning a funeral, either for yourself or for someone close to you, the Natural Death Centre Charity is there for you.

If you want to find a funeral director, need advice on caring for someone after death, or just some friendly impartial guidance on anything funeral related, give them a call.




The Good Funeral Guide 

'The Good Funeral Guide' - started by Charles Cowling, will tell you everything you need to know and everything you need to do when someone dies. It will inform you speedily, efficiently, matter-of-factly and thoroughly. Above all it will put you in charge.

Belinda Forbes

qualified local Funeral Celebrant - we work together to make sure you can have a local celebrant conducting your ceremony - call either of us for advice and support.

Final Fling

useful website -  it's easy to navigate, it has links to everything you might need to know. It's a manual, it's a magazine and it's a forum.

At last, a one-stop-shop for end of life plans. Record your Wishes, buy a Will, organise a funeral, price a coffin...

MuchLoved is a memorial website charity helping bereaved people to create their own personalised and free online memorial in memory of a loved one.



is dedicated to helping people to arrange a meaningful, significant and sincere funeral or end of life ceremony  - an excellent resource for ideas, non-religious poems, non-religious readings, songs, prayers, hymns, bible readings, non-religious music and quotes

Farewell Photography

Rachel Wallace is a local photographer and can be commissioned for funerals where she works discreetly and sensitively throughout. 

She is fairly unique in her business FAREWELL PHOTOGRAPHY in which she endeavours to demystify and alleviate the grieving process by producing beautiful Memory Books for the bereaved to keep and treasure after the funeral or memorial service.


Sentiment is a production company which specialises in end-of-life tribute photo & video montages, filmed life biographies and memory books to help you say goodbye exactly as you want to.

Scottish Piper

Ronald Paterson - Pipe Major for Reading Scottish Pipe Band

Wesley Music

provides a highly specialised music service to the bereavement community. Browse your local crematorium hymn library list for ideas for hymns, and the general library list for non-religious music choices

Church of England

many funerals in England are currently arranged by local parish churches


Bereavement Payment

If your husband, wife or civil partner has died you may be able to get the Bereavement Payment, a one-off, lump-sum payment of £2,000 that's tax-free.

Who can claim

You may be able to claim Bereavement Payment if your husband, wife or civil partner had paid their National Insurance contributions (NICs) or their death was caused by their job and either:

  • you were under State Pension age when they died
  • your husband, wife or civil partner was not entitled to Category A state Retirement Benefit when they died

Merry Widow

a hugely popular online resource for anyone who has lost a partner.

Merrywidow does not exclude anybody, it is open to all, and the information contained here is essential reading for widows and widowers of all ages, as well as friends and family who would like to know how best to help.

The Compassionate Friends

Supporting bereaved parents and their families after a child dies

See the Say Their Name Video here 

I think it's beautiful, brilliant and brave.

TCF is a charitable organisation of bereaved parents, siblings and grandparents dedicated to the support and care of other bereaved parents, siblings, and grandparents who have suffered the death of a child/children.

We offer support both directly to bereaved families and indirectly by fostering understanding and good practice amongst professionals concerned with child death and by increasing public awareness.

We recognise that many who have suffered the loss of a child feel a bond with others similarly bereaved and wish to extend the hand of friendship.


confidential emotional support 24/7 to those experiencing despair or distress 

Facing Bereavement 

excellent website formed to offer a unique reference point on facing and dealing with bereavement 


Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide exists to meet the needs 

and break the isolation of those bereaved by the suicide of a close friend or relative

UK charity providing support for anyone affected by the death of a baby

Winston's Wish

Winston's Wish is the leading childhood bereavement charity and the largest provider of services to bereaved children, young people and their families in the UK.

Child Bereavement

specialised support to all those affected when a baby or child dies, or when a child is bereaved


national charity offering free, confidential help to bereaved people

explore areas which might restrict moving on, help resolve areas of conflict still remaining, help to adjust to a new sense of self, consider if the mourning has turned to depression.


Aldershot Crematorium

Amersham/Chilterns Crematorium

Basingstoke Crematorium

Breakspear Crematorium

Croydon Crematorium

Easthampstead Park Crematorium, Bracknell

Guildford Crematorium

Mortlake Crematorium

Randalls Park Crematorium

Reading Crematorium

Slough Crematorium

South West Middlesex Crematorium

West Berkshire Crematorium

Woking Crematorium


Woodland Burial Parks

Woodland Burials

Association of Natural Burial Grounds

Private Garden Burials

Burials at Sea